Crazy Doesn't EVEN Begin to Cover It!

OMG sometimes men are just creepy.  One of my guy friends is seriously confused.

First off, let me just say…I have told this guy MULTIPLE times that I am not interested in dating him and that I am seeing other people. I have made that very very clear!  I have guy friends, guys that I go out with, watch the game, whatever, and none of them have gone all crazy on me like this.

So a few months ago (beginning of September) he said he had a bunch of Marriot points and needed to figure out what to do with them. I suggested taking a vacation somewhere like Bahamas or Puerto Rico or Jamaica. He said, that is a great idea, do you want to come with me. Knowing that I DID NOT want to go on vacation alone with him and give him the wrong idea, but wanting to be nice. I replied, “Well, I don’t know, it all depends on when and money.”

He suggested the wkend of Dec 7. Still trying to be nice and bow out in a polite way…because I still don’t want to go on a weekend away with him, say, “well I don’t have the money right now, I would have to find a sitter for Jake and my schedule is pretty crazy at work, but if things change for some reason I will let you know.”

*let me just remind you that this was all talked about in September

Time passes …we don’t mention this again. Since I am not planning on going with him, I don’t bring it up, but neither does he. So I move forward with my life. Make plans. You know…do my own thing. Figure if he was serious about it, he would bring it up again and I would just tell him a weekend away may give him the wrong idea so no.

Then last night, he said: “Hey, can you take Roxy the weekend after Thanksgiving”

I said, “sure”

Then he said “And don’t forget Dec 7^th we are going to Jamaica for the weekend. Remember, I mentioned it to you...”

I looked at him in SHOCK! We haven’t talked about this in weeks, where did this come from all of a sudden??

Yes YES, I know, we talked about it like twice but we NEVER finalized anything and a few weeks back my friend that I haven’t seen in 3 years told me she was coming down that weekend. Why wouldn’t I tell one of my best friends…sure come on down. I didn’t have plans that weekend!  

He (under his breath) was all, "well now I will have to figure out what I'm gonna do that wkend"

I said "well it's your wkend, you can do whatever you want, we didn’t have plans"

He said "Whatever, that's Bullshit" again under his breath.

I was confused & asked him WTF. He's all, “we were supposed to go to Jamaica.”

I said, “we talked about it weeks…months ago, but never finalized it, plus my friend has booked her ticket for that weekend  & I haven't seen her in years, so I'm not going anywhere.”

He was like "whatever, you should have told me she was coming that weekend. We did finalize plans. This is BS.” 

I looked @ him & was like, "you can stop saying crap under your breath and just say it. But We NEVER finalized anything & have not talked about this trip in MONTHS! I did mention to you my friend was coming; I mentioned it to everyone because I am excited about it. BUT honestly, I don’t have to tell you anything about my life. YOU ARE NOT MY BOYFRIEND. WE ARE NOT IN A RELATIONSHIP! I told you originally...WEEKS ago, that it wasn’t in my budget, but if something changed I would let you know”

He kept trying to tell me we had finalized everything. And this crazy boy actually reserved the hotel!

We had not finazlied anything….and I wasn’t planning on going. I had told him I couldn’t afford it.

I know. I should have just been blunt up front, but seriously, I was just trying to be nice! I guess being nice was the WRONG idea.

But really:

I didn't request off work. It was a suggested date we talked about 2x in freaking SEPT!!! Then he tried to tell me we had planned it all out. Umm...no, cuz if we had, I'd have:
A) TOLD MY BEST FRIEND & MY MUM
B) booked a ticket
C) found a sitter for Jake!!
D) Requested off work! 

I did none if those things!!! So um I told him instead of putting words in my mouth he could get the fuck out of my house because we didn't finalize anything & hadn't talked about it in months.

What the hell. Seriously!

Who's That Lurking in the Bushes?

I have a lot of interesting experiences when I go out for my evening runs. I see some of the craziest things and try (when I can) to get pictures of some of them…but sometimes you just can’t take a picture.

Last night was one of those times…

I took my pup out after work and we went for a short run. Now that it is getting dark earlier, although I set out with the sun up but the last few miles are in the dark. 

I was on the last bit of my run and up ahead of me stopped on the side of the road was a black van with the engine running, lights off and side door open.

I have a sudden realization that its dark out & I think DAMN “I gadda start carrying my mace again!” I have a sudden flash in my head of some big beefy guy leaping out of the bushes, putting a cloth socked in chloroform over my mouth, pushing me into the running car, hurting my dog, kidnapping me & selling me into slavery! I may have been over thinking things….

As I got closer, I saw some movement in the bushes out of the corner if my eye! Fight or Flight suddenly rushes through my body and I am tense, ready to flee. Only to see a 12 year old boy in a blue shirt comes lumbering out of the bushes!

I yelp anxiously while the adrenalin rushes through my body and it registers in my mind that it is just a child. I continue running past grateful people cannot read my mind and slightly embarrassed that I let out a yelp that I am pretty sure they heard.

What was a 12 year old boy doing in the bushes on the side of Hiatus at 7:30 at night you ask…well since he was adjusting his pants when he came out of the bushes, I am going to guess he was back there peeing. Not quite sure the kid couldn’t wait 2 min until they got to the McDonalds, Walgreens, Mobile or Winn Dixie that are all just a mile up the road before he had to relive himself. I guess lurking in the bushes and scaring the crap out of unsuspecting woman as they jog by is more fun. 

Damn Kids!

Facebook Emotions..

Good on Paper:

Dating freaking suxs and it is stupid hard. I don’t know why men enjoy doing it so much! I meet this boy…let’s call him Mr. Peep This. That boy is so good on paper and reading the paper…we would be a great fit for each other!  Took a while, but I finally decided to go ahead and meet him, go on a date. Right. Heck, like I said he is good on paper and yes, we do have a lot in common.

He is so good on paper: jobs, education, car, financially stable, active (he does crossfit etc) knows what he wants, he is smart, funny and very very nice and we got along really well....but then like always...you see the flaws. There is always something…isn’t there. :(

**Just a side note**

Guys work so hard to get in your pants. They are so attentive and responsive, but as soon as they do...BAMN...you move from #1 to #21

Sad thing is, if they didn't get us use to the attentiveness and responsiveness in the beginning, we would be so bothered when they stopped doing it so much! Then they say you are the needy one and why do you want to see them all the time.

I WILL TELL YOU WHY! It is because from DAY ONE they have been like that. Now it is day SIXTY ONE and you have just gotten into the routine. Honestly, we had lives before them; they inserted themselves into our lives, changed us and then blame us for changing....

And I don’t care how they act, we have already decided within the first 30 seconds that we see/meet them weather or not we are going to sleep with them, so this whole messing with our minds part is SOOOO not needed!

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Back to Mr Peep This.

Date #1 goes really great, but the flaws….

1) And this is the biggest one: When he opens his mouth.

            The boy says words from 1990! Yes, Seriously! 1990!

            Words like:

            * Peep This

            * Word

            * No Doubt

            * Yo

            * Crib

WTF! Are you kidding me! Although he did use HAM (Hard as a Mother) the other day, which I love (thanks to Two Broke Girls)! But ugh! It is just so strange hearing slang from 1990, especially in a New York accent. I just look at him, jaw dropped, wondering WTF is going to come out of his mouth next.

Hell, I even had to txt a friend to see if I could get an interpretation on one text "Chillaxin in bed all day. What fucking killed me boo is spelling at 9 effin am"

What the hell does Spelling mean!

Sadly, no one could tell me, and I didn't want to ask in case it was an auto correct...causing him to realize just how strange I find his lingo. Urban Dictionary didn’t help me out either L Damn Google!

At this point in time I am waiting for WACK to come out! Heehee.

So that is issue #1

Issue #2

2) He is still a bit of a party boy

Not such a big issue for me, but now that I am older...getting older...whatever. I like to sleep more and I am not getting drunk or going out to the club as much. Hell, I haven't been to the bar in MONTHS, I can't even remember the last time and I haven't been to an actually night club since my birthday in April! And I don't plan on going again anytime in the near future.

Him...he goes out until like 5 am - 6 am. He said the other night he went out to a club after he got off work (admittedly at 3 am) and was out until 8 am!

Are you crazy! You are 30 years old! doing that 3-4 times a week is not good.

Even after our date the other night, at 11:30 or whatever, instead of going home like a normal person would do on a Thursday night, he went to Off the Hooka in Fort Lauderdale and meet up with some friends until like 3 am! NO WAY! That is just strange to me.

Then he said to me: "I don't want to go out late like that anymore and now I found a girl who doesn't."

IDK, I don't want him to change who he is and not go out because of me. I want him to be that person on his own. I don't think people should change something like that about themselves for someone else. And how will that even work. Obviously all his friends are the same way. Going out late, partying all night and sleeping all day.

Why does dating have to be so damn hard? LOL

I am going to go on another date with him. But 2 issues that I need to address, consider and decided on...NO DOUBT!!

Alex Cross - The Movie

I just have to say!!!


I LOVE the Alex Cross Series by James Patterson! 

But I still CAN NOT believe that they cast Tyler Perry for Alex Cross!! He is NOT Alex Cross!!! SERIOUSLY!! WTF! READY the BOOKS!!! Idris Elba is a MUCH better...MUCH hotter....PERFECT fit for Alex Cross! 

Tyler Perry! Ugh. Could you make me any sicker! I don't even want to waste my time watching that dude completely screw up a perfect movie.. especially when Idris Elba could have done it so perfectly...and dame is Idris Elba sexy....ummmm......seeeeexxxxxyyyyy!! :) Ummm...Yes, Idris Elba really is Alex Cross!!

South Florida Drivers = A DAMN TRIP

 Driving in South Florida is seriously a trip. This is like a melting pot from people all over the world, and many of them should not have licences to begin with and even more are uninsured!

I have lived all over the country, and Florida is in the top 3 worst places to drive! People down here are seriously insane!

1. We have young people fresh from the islands and South America that hop off a plane and into a car without a second thought and many of them do not speak English. I don't understand how you are going to read all our street signs and highway alerts if you don't know the language...you don't. I don't go to France or Italy hop in a car and drive around!
2. We have (like everywhere) a bunch of stupid teenage drivers who have had their license for less than 6 months. Um if your kid is not getting As & Bs in cars, they are probably not smart enough to drive around a 2 ton death trap...just saying. High school is so not that hard. I slept though half of it and didn't even go to the other half and graduate in the top percentile of my class!
3. Being that this is truly the snowbird state, we have a bunch of blue haired old woman and men who can't even see over the steering wheel, do 45 on the highway in the fast lane and leave their blinker on for hours!You can see how much of a snowbird state this is by checking out my blog My Evil Mind about my flight back from New Jersey in the beginning of winter. OMG.
4. Well damn, South Florida is a big area. We have a lot of people crammed into this wonderful paradise! Who doesn't want to live here, the beaches, the sun, the men! But a lot of people just means a lot of stupid people who shouldn't have a licence to begin with. I swear we should A) not provide drivers test in multiple languages and B) not make it so damn easy C) Not let you keep taking it even though you have failed 50 times! DAMN MAN!
5. And don't even get me started on the school buses and construction..ugh...

I could list for ages about how everywhere...and especially here have horrible drivers...but I'm leaving my main point behind.....

So when my friend sent me this email about Florida drivers, I had to share!  I wish I knew who had come up with this list originally, because I would give them props, but sadly...I do not :(

Driving in South Florida

1. First, you must learn how to pronounce the name; it is "FLAAAAARIDA".

2. The morning rush hour is from 5:00am to noon. The evening rush hour is from noon to 8:00pm. Friday's rush hour starts on Thursday morning.

3. The minimum acceptable speed on most freeways is 85 mph. On I-95 your speed is expected to match the highway number. Anything less is grounds to run you off the road while giving you the finger.

4. Forget the traffic rules you learned elsewhere. Florida has its own version of traffic rules. For example, cars/trucks with the loudest muffler go first at a four-way stop; the trucks with the biggest tires go second. However, SUV cell phone-talking-soccer moms ALWAYS have the right of way.

5. If you actually stop at a yellow light, you will be rear ended, cussed out, and possibly shot.

6. Never honk at anyone. Ever. Seriously. It's another offense that can get you shot.

 

7. Road construction is permanent and continuous in Florida. Detour barrels are moved around for your entertainment pleasure during the middle of the night to make the next day's driving a bit more exciting

8. If someone actually has their turn signal on, wave them to the shoulder immediately to let them know it has been accidentally activated.

9. Merge means race like a madman and cut the person in line off or better yet --- run them off the road.

10. For summer driving, it is advisable to wear potholders on your hands and generously apply suntan lotion on your left arm.

11. If you are going to yell anything out the window, make sure it is in Spanish or Creole.

 I wish I could just give a thumbs up to every single one of those! Cuz damn so true, so sad, so funny

Really don't mess with us. South Florida is CRAZY! Hell we just had a man eat another persons face off!!!  :)

A Boy v/s A Man...

I have been single now for about 2 months, and in I have had some interesting dates and encounters (with the opposite sex) so I figure…maybe I should share some of these, for many reasons: a good laugh, a WTF moment or just a lesson to help other woman see the crazy before it hits them and they have time to run.

So here it goes:

Ironically…I still have this strange belief that at a certain point in your life, guys would grow up…I am almost 30. But I guess 30(ish) year old boys are still 16….This is a perfect example of how stupid men can be!

I had been talking to this guy for a while and I finally agreed to go on a date with this guy last week. He has a great body, graduate degree, lived alone, had his own business, into the same things as I am…so I figured, why not, seems to have his head on right.

He picks me up, opens the door, perfect gentleman and takes me out to sushi (since I don’t eat meat…he remember…plus)

Dinner was great; we talked and got a long really well, so we made plans to see each other again this week. Last night, he gives me a text:

"Ready for Round 2"

I said "Haha, Maybe :-) what do you have in mind"

He replied "Round two of Kissing, LOL"

I said "Haha. Dinner maybe a better place to start. :)"

He said "Dinner again!"

I said “Well dinner or something. What do you have in mind?"

His response "Kisses"

I said, "Haha. I'm not 16. I don't just meet up w/ guys to go to make-out bluff anymore. I'm kinda more a get to know someone first, relationship type of girl"

He said "Ohh so you’re not into the whole bases thing"

I said "LOL...not for a few years now, u?

He never responded.

I felt like I had fallen down the rabbits hole back to 1998 and was talking to a 16 year old boy! WTF. Really!!! I didn’t enjoy talking to 16 year old boys when I was 16…THAT is exactly why I dated older men! Why the hell would I want to talk to one now? Seriously! What kinda idiot thinks he takes a girl out once and then the go have a make-out session for the second date. Guess I won’t be hearing from him again, THANK GAWD cuz I so don’t want a kid!   

Oh well, I have another date tonight...maybe this one can at least act like he is 18! I would say he does have a college degree and owns his own house...so maybe he is a grown man...but you never know!

But on the plus side, at least I am not going out with a guy who is 35 and STILL trying to get his career in line!

Kisses....really?!...SMH, IDK anymore